Do not say anti-transgender and sexism language. This should be self-explicit. Referring transgender women as ladyboy, shemale or lesbian is not only an ignorant behavior, it will also be considered as violate to transgender women. Never use these words and if you heard someone talking like this, correct them. From the perspective of transgender women, the cause for transphobia is misogyny itself. Remember, ladies, you cannot only pay attention to those words that are against transgender women, while ignoring those which are against females.
Date them. There are many amazing and feasible ways to deal with social relationship. Each individual can take different approach. One thing we can do for transgender women is to be open to intimate relationships. Some people have fetish over transgender people and it might serve their personal preference to date us. For people who don’t have such preference, do not mind if your tranny date tells you that she is a transgender woman. There is not much difference between dating a cisgender woman and transgender hookup. Just try it and you will see. I happen to have had several great relationships with them and now most of them are committed in a monogamous relationship. Even though these relationships didn’t last long, I still have great memories and I cherish them. I really hope there are more people join me.
Do not pay too much attention to genitals. Obviously, this has something to do with fetish. Do not bewilder them with this question. There are some transgender women are quite open to this question, but they cannot represent all transgender people. Even if someone is willing to share this information with you, it does not make it okay for you to share it with other people.
Some cisgender people might have problem with whether to date a transgender person. First of all, never feel stressful to do anything you don’t feel like to do. If you feel uncomfortable or you don’t like it, just say no.
If genital is the only reason why you wouldn’t date them, I think this is something worth thinking about. Your result might still be “no, it’s not for me”, then great! You can go away without any regret. Transgender women will not want to be with someone who don’t want to be with them. What I would like to address is that genitals should not be the only obstacle in true love. I truly hope you don’t miss the chance to gain something precious just because of your parochialism.