People can be easily irritated by such a declared sexism, which reminded me of my own experience in life and work. I often feel ignored. Then she said “yes, I feel really pity for you ladyboy”. The minute she said the word, she regretted it. I could sense it from her face. I know she didn’t mean it, but what is pathetic is this word is so common that sometimes people don’t even realize that it is impolite for us. I could imagine a crowd of cisgender people talking about us and all of them referring to us as shemales or ladyboy as if these words are just the right ones to call us. Even more pathetic than this is that some people who claim to be transgender supporters cannot even find the right words to call us. They think transgender female or transgender woman must be the most appropriate addressing, but it only proves they still think we are somewhat different with them. The fact is, we are the same.
Okay, that’s it. Now if you are also worrying about all these complicated transgender issues, then what I want to say is, after all is said and done, all issues come down to one issue of respect. Respect us female just like how you want yourself to be respected. As a matter of fact, transgender women are a small part of human-being and also a small part of females. Therefore, if we are discriminated, that equals the discrimination for females. The truth is we are never short of such discrimination.
Due to the mistreat for transgender people, many considerate and nice cisgender males are not able to build connection with us, because they will be mistakenly deemed as gay. That is totally ridiculous. Such perspective is caused by the ignorance and the lack of basic knowledge for transgender group. First of all, transgender females are women. We are never males even though we are assigned with the wrong body. We can be even more feminine than many cisgender women, but there is no need to make such comparison. Second, men are attracted by our female characteristics but not the thing between our legs, that makes them 100% straight. But if your obstinacy and prejudice prevent you from admitting the truth, I won’t blame you for it, because you can be so wrong in many other aspects in your life. The opinions of such persons cannot be taken into consideration.
At last, I really wish us transgender people can get a small room in the world for us to live happily and more easily. I really wish there is a day that we can stand in the sunlight and be who we are without any danger or concern.